Creating Loving Boundaries

When we make neutral and well intentioned boundaries with others, we allow them to be who they are living their lives as they choose to. We free ourselves from needing to be responsible for others and trust that they, in partnering with God, are on their own path. Through creating loving boundaries (also known as “neutral separations”), we allow ourselves to ground solely within ourselves and give others permission to be grounded in their own space.

 To create loving boundaries with others: Imagine in your mind’s eye the person you want to create loving boundaries with. See this person across a 20 foot wide river of light. Then see yourself on the other side facing that person across the river. See yourself say to that person from that divine place within you, “I give you permission to be who you are; to live the way you choose to live in the reality you choose. I release any responsibility I may have assumed for your happiness and I release this responsibility back to you and to God. I forgive you for any harm you may have caused me to the degree that I am able today. I ask to be forgiven for any harm I may have caused you. I thank you for being in my life and release all of your energy in love back to you.” In your mind’s eye, see whatever energies that need to go back to the other person, easily and with the help of the other person’s spirit guides release the energy back to them.

Now, in calling back all of your own energies, say, “I give myself permission to fully be who I am; to live the life I choose to live in the reality that best suits me. I take full responsibility for my life that I am co-creating with God, and I release you from any responsibility you may have assumed for my happiness and my life. I forgive myself for any harm done to myself or others. I call all of my energy back from you in love.” See the energy that needs to come back to you move across the river and back into your space. Thank the person for joining you at the river and then release them.